Why do men hate women so much?
November 25 is the day to eliminate all forms of violence against women.
The Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women issued by the United Nations General Assembly in 1993 defines violence against women as “any act of gender-based violence which causes or is likely to cause physical, sexual or psychological harm or suffering”. to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether in public or private life”.
It might seem that with the spread of education and increasing prosperity, the incidence of violence based on race, class or gender would have diminished. But this is not the case.
Violence against women and girls (VAWG), in particular, is one of the most widespread, persistent and devastating human rights violations in our world today. Sadly, it remains largely unreported due to the impunity, silence, stigma and shame that surrounds it.
It is men who are largely responsible for this violence, and it is men who literally get away with murder.
Generally, violence manifests itself in physical, sexual and psychological forms, including:
- Violence between intimate partners (beating, psychological violence, marital rape, abortion of female fetuses, infanticide);
- Sexual violence and harassment (rape, forced sexual acts, unwanted sexual advances, child sexual abuse, forced marriage, street harassment, bullying, cyberbullying);
- Human trafficking (slavery, sexual exploitation);
- female genital mutilation; and child marriage.
- The abuse of widows and the elderly.
Judging by the above, there is almost no period in her life when a woman is not subjected to verbal or physical abuse. And it’s not race or class specific; it is present in all cultures and societies.
Every type of society has streaks of violence, and even the Catholic Church, which is supposed to be “a light to the world”, has an exploitative behavior towards its nuns, daughters and married women, as we are more. more aware.
In fact, women’s liberation did not come from religion, but from secular sources.
The #MeToo movement, founded by activist Tarana Burke in 2006, exploded globally in 2017. It created a moment of urgency and solidarity to respond to sexual violence against women and girls.
“We are not safe anywhere – not in the office, not at home, not on the street”
In December 2012, India had its “Nirbhaya” (fearless) moment, when across the country, rallies and candlelight processions spontaneously erupted, expressing their solidarity with Jyoti Singh, the young woman raped and killed in a bus from Delhi.
And in this same year of 2022, Iranian women rose up in protest, throwing off their veils, as they reacted to the death of student, Mahsa Amini, at the hands of the ‘morality police’ and demanded that their ayatollahs withdraw.
And most gruesome of all – even as this article is written – the suffocation and subsequent vivisection of Shraddha Walkar, a young Indian woman, by her male partner, a monstrous crime that shook the entire country.
As one activist noted: “We are not safe anywhere – not in the office, not at home, not on the street. We must always be aware, be vigilant.
This unprecedented awareness and momentum has been created through the hard work of grassroots activists, human rights defenders and survivor advocates around the world, to prevent and end violence against women and girls. .
Why are men so violent towards women? Why do they hate them so?
Perhaps the profound changes in mentality that democracy has brought about will tell us why.
For centuries, rich and powerful men ruled everywhere. Whether these men were white, upper-caste, wealthy, or elite, patriarchy (“father rule”) was the norm.
Not anymore. Due to the spread of education and employment, work-related migrations and the presence of women in almost all public spheres, the hegemony of men is being challenged.
“Delinquent men feel deeply inadequate with a partner who is a confident woman”
But it also means a rise in anti-rights movements, including anti-feminist groups, resulting in shrinking space for civil society, a backlash against women’s rights organizations and a increased attacks on women human rights defenders and activists.
And reaction forces often use brutal violence.
Speaking of the tragic crime against Shraddha Walkar above, a psychologist observed:
Male offenders feel deeply inadequate with a partner who is a confident, self-responsible woman who wishes to be equal in a relationship and demands accountability. As such, these men exhibit high levels of anger – becoming furious at the slightest slight, unable to take ‘no’ for an answer from a woman. Anger, power, control, fantasy… savagery.
How can women protect themselves from violence?
Most females were bred to be shy and reserved and to cede to males the stronger, more intelligent sex. This indoctrination is found in almost every religion, and religious influence is dominant in almost everyone’s childhood.
It is time for all women – young, old and middle-aged; educated and illiterate; rich and poor – challenge this stereotype and fight back. It is simply not true to say that women are weaker and should be “protected”.
A change of attitude towards men is therefore vital. Stop pampering them as children, stop making excuses for them as adults. Stop accepting the use of obscene language at home, as well as hate speech and derisive jokes about sex and race in a mixed society.
Above all, do not accept physical violence at any level of the home – be it the beating of mischievous children or the beating of drunken wives or daughters.
Instead, encourage the use of discussion, verbal apologies, and compensatory actions whenever wrongdoing is observed.
However, despite everything, physical protections are often necessary.
Although women today take better care of their bodies through proper diet and exercise, learning self-protection systems can be a big help. Take Israeli Krav Maga, for example. It’s more than a sport. It is a self-defense system that “channels the fear of being attacked into a powerful weapon against the aggressor”.
“Men need to realize that women don’t ‘take over’ the world”
It is not forbidden to inflict pain or injury on an aggressor who wishes to assault someone or violate their body.
But more than that, women who are society’s educators at home and at school must educate men in tolerance and non-violence.
Through dialogue and argument, they must allay men’s fears, the fundamental source of male violence.
Men need to realize that women do not “take over” the world, but rather build lateral relationships of healing and harmony towards the peace and sustainability we all yearn for, where all forms of violence are obsolete.
*The views expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official editorial position of UCA News.